Category: Guide
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Finding Your Style, Part I: Shape & Silhouette
A deep dive into deciding on your own personal fashion and tailoring your clothes to fit. Introduction Before I start with the actual meat of this piece, I want to establish what this series of guides is not going to be. These guides are going to be about building and cultivating your wardrobe and accessories for…
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Where do I find the queer people?
Making friends and finding social & community spaces as an LGBTQ+ adult. This piece originally published in Prism & Pen on Dec 31, 2023. A friend and I recently went to a Queer Open Mic night after I saw it advertised on the same afternoon. While we were on the way back, she asked about how…
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Close Reading: A Deep Dive into the Process
An in-depth guide into applying analysis to a piece of text and extrapolating meaning. A close reading is what we call an in-depth analysis of a piece of text, which might be in the case of fiction a short story, or for novels and novellas might be a portion or an extract from the text.…
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Writing Advice: Crafting Richer Erotica
Adding depth and complexity to your sex scenes. From my Tumblr! Photo by Ketut Subiyanto via Pexels. Anonymous asked: Your smut is always so good, I hope it’s okay to ask for advice, but I’ve been struggling with writing smut in that my sex scenes always end up so short — I don’t want to just pad them out…
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Wearing Waistcoats
Finding waistcoats, choosing a fit, and wearing them. There are a few varieties of waistcoat and vest you might be interested in wearing — a typical modern waistcoat is ordinarily assumed to be part of men’s formalwear, with two front sections that button at the centre or to one side of the abdomen, and a back section. For…
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Do I have to be masculine to be a top?
Unpacking some feelings of gender in and around sex and sex acts. Photo by Anete Lusina via Pexels. Another blog post coming from an anonymous ask on Tumblr! Anonymous asked: Okay so similarly to last anon about topping as a trans guy/trans masc, how do you build the confidence within yourself to top someone with a penis?…
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Being A Slut: For Trans MLM
Blog post from an anonymous ask about MLM cruising culture as trans men. This is just posting over from my Tumblr, as I thought it’d be relevant to my Medium audience! Anonymous asked: Possibly an odd question, but……do you have advice on how to be a slut? I’m recently out as a gay trans man, in…
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Fast “Who am I?”: A Fun Game to Play with Friends
A silly fun game to play rapidly with your friends and loved ones in 2023. I thought this would be a fun thing to be my first non-fiction post in 2023 — my boyfriend and I over the Christmas season were, as a lot of people were, playing Heads Up! and also doing the Who am I? stickers…