Category: Sex & Erotica Guides
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Looking For 🍑🍆💦: A Beginner’s Guide to Grindr for Trans Men

Repost from Medium, originally published November 2022, which is why I look so young and fresh-faced in the pictures, unlike today. Evidently I missed this one in my original porting over. Approaching Grindr (and cruising culture) as a trans man. As a trans man I’ve been using Grindr for years, and especially in the past year…
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Ringing The Devil’s Doorbell: A Light-Hearted, Practical Guide

Let’s talk sex! Vulvar and vaginal stimulation for fun, pleasure, and profit. Originally published on Medium in November, 2021. Content note: this is a reference guide for the stimulation of the vulva and vagina. Throughout this piece there is in-depth discussion of sex and sexual practice, there are diagrams, and there are photographs of vulvas to…
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Writing Advice: Crafting Richer Erotica

Adding depth and complexity to your sex scenes. From my Tumblr! Photo by Ketut Subiyanto via Pexels. Anonymous asked: Your smut is always so good, I hope it’s okay to ask for advice, but I’ve been struggling with writing smut in that my sex scenes always end up so short — I don’t want to just pad them out…
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Do I have to be masculine to be a top?

Unpacking some feelings of gender in and around sex and sex acts. Photo by Anete Lusina via Pexels. Another blog post coming from an anonymous ask on Tumblr! Anonymous asked: Okay so similarly to last anon about topping as a trans guy/trans masc, how do you build the confidence within yourself to top someone with a penis?…
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Being A Slut: For Trans MLM

Blog post from an anonymous ask about MLM cruising culture as trans men. This is just posting over from my Tumblr, as I thought it’d be relevant to my Medium audience! Anonymous asked: Possibly an odd question, but……do you have advice on how to be a slut? I’m recently out as a gay trans man, in…
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Tell Me How You Like It: A Beginner’s Guide to Talking Dirty

Delving into dirty talk and direct communication in the bedroom. How do I dirty talk effectively in the bedroom? How do I start talking when my natural inclination is to remain quiet? What do I say? How do I get over the embarassment? I’m going to be going through a lot of foundational questions and things…